I don't mean I only like Japanese culture, of course I love my own culture, but I like Japanese culture too. I am learning Japanese, I watch anime and read manga, listen to Japanese singers, watch Japanese tv shows. My home (I live in my own flat) has Japanese, Chinese, and Western style arrangements. For example one part of my room is Japanese style. I put Shoji screens dividing my room. One part with Japanese furniture and the floor is a tatami mat, the other a mix of Chinese and Western furniture.
My parents have always been unhappy that I liked Japanese culture, but when I moved out and arranged my flat like I said they got really angry that I did this, claiming that I wasn't a Chinese and are kicking me out of the family if I don't get rid of all my Japanese ways. I mean out of the family, they say unless I change I'm not even welcome to talk to them and that they called their lawyers and took me out of their will, that I'm not welcome to take part during family gatherings.
I can't even talk to them and I haven't in a long time and I can't explain anything to them. They will just not answer or answer and immediately hang up when I call. If I use another phone they'll simply hang up when they find out it's me, not listening to a word. When I show up at their home they won't open the door.
What can I do? I love my family, I understand why they feel like this but couldn't the past just be the past? My family wasn't even a part of it so they have no personal vendetta. Can't we all have peace? By the way when I was a little girl, my parents told me that family was everything, no matter what happens family is family and will always support each other.
Who says I'm only asking Westerners? I'm asking everyone. And this is in the culture section. And what do you mean Westerners don't know. Every Westerner I've met knew (though not many of them)
Wow, I know because ur family ur mom and dad was an a*shole they can't even except new things they will regret this after they found out how important u r. they will beg u to go back home later on. r u rich? if not ask the lawyer to go away and tell him ur mom and dad will not give him any money for his service and unforturnately he will leave. btw why r u only LET westerners answer this question but i'll answer it even though i'm a chinese my parents are chinese but they like japanese thing style and even my restraun is a sushi club. well ask ur parent to let GO of the HATES and perswave them that the japanese had change and stop being a hater and a a*shole they should of be more mature tell them that, "if u hate the japanese then throw out all the made in japan products include those cameras most of them are made in japan!" last word ur parant was some punk immature retard and小 氣鬼, 記仇鬼,這些父母連子女都不要的,認不認這些父母都巴. 你的父母連做人的基本量度的都沒有的學什麼做人AH. 說出來都羞家la.做人連胸come廣闊都沒ge學什麼人做父母AH.
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Follow-up comment rss or Leave a TrackbackWhen it comes to chinese, japanese, Filipino, and korean etc. I can't tell which is which. It's confusing trying to distinguish the people and culture from one another.
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I'm just wondering why you're asking this on Y!A. Westerners are pretty much clueless about the historical animosity between the Japanese and Chinese. I'd just ask your parents to get over it, WWII was 60 years ago, we need to move on if humanity is ever going to get anywhere.
I mean it's so silly that your parents would not accept you for your personal taste in design, the Europeans have accepted the Germans (although I have to say that the Germans have been much more apologetic than the Japanese for the crimes they committed). Maybe you should try sending them a letter?
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You just need to go up right to ur mom and dads face and look them in the eyes, and scream as loud as u can DONT HATE ME CUZ IM BLACK!!
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Wow that's really tough. If it were me I'm not sure what I would do. In some ways I think I would probably say forget them, if they don't love me for who I am then why should I care and why would I change my ways? They're my family they shouldn't ask that of me. But in other ways I may think I should love them enough to give it up. But can I be happy knowing that there is a part of me being suppressed? (That last part I said made me think of my friend who was gay and then had to tell the family that he changed his ways and was not gay anymore just so they would accept him back. But that's really no way to live.) So, on one hand is the Japanese style or your family more important to you? And on the other hand, if they love you, why do they want to change you?
It just sucks that they won't even talk to you at all! I can't stand people like that. I'm so frusterated for you. If you do decide to leave your true self behind so that they will take you back… how are you going to let them know that you did if they won't answer the phone or door? How do they know that's not the reason you were calling in the first place, to tell them that you already did that?
I wish I could say just let them go. But I can't. You love them. We can give you our opinions here, but you have to decide in the end. I really hurt for you though and wish you the best.
Why thumb down?
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I understand some nationals don't like Japanese or Japanese culture, but your parents seem to have gone to extreams… I wonder there might be any other hidden reasons for them to kick you out from family. Otherwise they are likely to have misunderstood you had a Japanese boyfriend in your new house.
But after all, you and your parents is connected by blood, which is very important in China, right ? you can't be detached so easily. Try to talk with them, I wish your good luck !
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well its obvious that the troubled past between china and japan is still very real for them, so obviously by you being interested in japanese culture it looks to them like you prefer the 'enemy's' culture over their own. i dont think that they should be interfering so much with your personal preferences, but i can still understand their view point.
my family is japanese and i know that they would be offended and upset if i decorated my room with chinese lanterns, lacquered dragons and big fans, etc. i think chinese and japanese people arent very fond of each other in general. maybe your parents are taking this so seriously because they/someone in their family has been personally affected by this conflict.
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3/4 japanese
I think your grand parents or great grand parents must have suffered a lot during the 2nd world war so your parents cant completely forget about the past.
My family, like every chinese during the 2nd world war, had suffered certain extend of hardship, but nothing was a big deal comparing to those who lived in Nanjing, so at a time when I loved everything about japan and even had a japanese boyfriend, my parents didnt really care about that.
You still can enjoy the japanese culture as much as you want by keeping them in a less noticeable place, but you had better take away all the japanese home design. If you have a boyfirend who is a non japanese, take him to meet your parents to show that you wont marry a japanese ( maybe it is something they are worried about ).
I dont think it worths damaging the relationship with your parents for simply a passion.
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Wow, I know because ur family ur mom and dad was an a*shole they can't even except new things they will regret this after they found out how important u r. they will beg u to go back home later on. r u rich? if not ask the lawyer to go away and tell him ur mom and dad will not give him any money for his service and unforturnately he will leave. btw why r u only LET westerners answer this question but i'll answer it even though i'm a chinese my parents are chinese but they like japanese thing style and even my restraun is a sushi club. well ask ur parent to let GO of the HATES and perswave them that the japanese had change and stop being a hater and a a*shole they should of be more mature tell them that, "if u hate the japanese then throw out all the made in japan products include those cameras most of them are made in japan!" last word ur parant was some punk immature retard and小 氣鬼, 記仇鬼,這些父母連子女都不要的,認不認這些父母都巴. 你的父母連做人的基本量度的都沒有的學什麼做人AH. 說出來都羞家la.做人連胸come廣闊都沒ge學什麼人做父母AH.
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